Are the Kids Even Mine?

Are the kids even mine?

A mother never questions if she is the biological mother to her child. A mother knows the child is hers the moment she finds out about her pregnancy. It is usually a choice when a mother is not a biological match to her child. The mother could have used a donor or egg or the child was adopted. The only way a mother would unknowingly have a child that is not biological match would be if there was mix-up at the hospital when the child was born.

A father, on the other hand, has a higher chance of having a child that is not a biological match. The father is expected to trust the mother’s word that he is the biological father. The father is assumed to be the father if the couple were in an exclusive relationship. If the father believes the mother has integrity, the father may not question paternity or try to validate the mother’s representations with a DNA test. 

Failing to confirm paternity with genetic testing can be a mistake.

Some people cheat in exclusive relationships. That’s a fact. After cheating, the unfaithful spouse has the dilemma to be honest about the poor choice or conceal the affair from the other spouse. Both options will result in intense emotions when the other person finds out. Once the infidelity becomes known, it becomes an obstacle that could end the relationship. For this reason, a significant number of people hide infidelity. An unfaithful spouse believes what the other spouse doesn’t know can’t hurt.

If a mother cheated and it coincided with the time of her pregnancy, there is a chance that the child is not biological to the alleged father. If the mother concealed the fact she cheated after the encounter, and she did come clean when she found out she was pregnant, the actions of the unfaithful mother can have significant moral and legal consequences for the alleged father. In other words, a mother that remains silent for the male spouse to assume paternity sets the stage for a high conflict situation when the truth is discovered.

A potential father with any reason or a gut feeling to question paternity must act immediately. Suspicion often develops after information is shared by another person, digital evidence of cheating is discovered, or the father personally witnessed the cheating. A father with suspicions should not wait to see if the child has a physical resemblance to him or his family. 

The accessibility of discrete and affordable DNA testing can confirm any suspicions.

The Edmonton Family Network strongly recommends Paternity DNA Test. This company stands above their competition with a 46-marker test which means more accuracy. Others offer the basic industry standard 16 or 24 marker test which means the results have a higher chance of being inconclusive. For a father who wants to categorically know whether he is a biological match or not, having an inconclusive result is unacceptable. 

Paternity DNA Test has 100% accurate home paternity tests for as little as $199.00. After ordering a test online, a Home Kit is shipped in a discreet, unmarked package with a prepaid return envelope. A potential father can use the mouth swaps and easy-to-follow instructions for taking a sample or the sample can be taken at a collection sites. Once the sample is returned in the mail, the paternity results will arrive back within 3-5 business days.

For paternity disputes in family court, Paternity DNA Test also offers court admissible tests for as little as $299.00. After purchasing a court test online, the test will be booked within 24 hours at a collection site, then the results will arrive back within 3-5 business days.

When paternity is questionable, Paternity DNA test is our #1 recommended first step!

You are Not the Father!

Failing to confirm paternity with genetic testing in a reasonable timeframe can have significant legal and moral consequences for the father. Paternity should always be confirmed before taking on the role of a father or signing the birth certificate. A deceived father can have a legal obligation, at the very least, to provide financial support for a non-biological child if he assumed paternity, remained in the relationship or acted as a father to the child. 

If it is determined at a later time that the father was deceived and the child is not his biological match, he could still have a moral and legal obligation to the child. A misled father is often limited to surrendering time with the child and decision-making responsibilities, while the financial support obligation continues.

The court will make a decision based on the best interest of the child. The children  are always innocent in paternity disputes and have also been victimized by the mother’s choices. The mother’s failure to disclose the pregnancy to the biological father deprives the biological from being a parent. The biological father may not even be aware of the child until the secret is exposed. The child is, in turn, is deprived of the opportunity to have a relationship with the biological father and paternal family. In paternity disputes, the court will protect the child from further harm and deprivation.

Edmonton Family Network has connections to legal professionals and community support services available to help with paternity disputes. Contact us to learn more.